courtnek Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 This is not dog related, and I am only posting it here so everyone sees it. Please feel free to move it elsewhere. My ex-husband is threatening me. We have a form of joint custody of our son..he wants Kyle to live with him, Kyle doesnt want to. He is almost 17 years old, and can make his own decisions by law, so his father has threatened to "come after me" if I dont comply. And I wont. His father is mentally, physically and emotionally abusive...has told Kyle for his whole life he will "amount to nothing", "die before his time" and "be a disgrace to everyone..." because he didnt always agree with what his dad WANTED him to do.... he has abused me in all the above ways as well. that's why he is no longer here. I am just telling you this in case something happens to me. I am Katy Courtney, Elgin, IL He is Kevin Courtney, Elk River, MN. Our son is Kyle Courtney, currently lives here, but may run for it at any time... Please just file this somewhere. If you hear about it in the news, please send it to the paper that runs the story. Thanks Katy Quote
abker17 Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 OMG Courtnek. :( :( :( :( :( Please be careful, call the cops, get out of there! Don't put u'reself or u're son at risk! PLEASE courtnek please!!!!!! I don't wanna see u get hurt. :( :( :( Just get out of there. :( Quote
Lucky Chaos Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 I agree call the police right away!! And be safe, you and your son, stay away and be safe...... :( Quote
courtnek Posted December 21, 2003 Author Posted December 21, 2003 Thank you all...the police have been alerted, there is a restraining order pending against him, but I know tha law. They cant do anything if they dont catch him in the act....and there is nowhere I can go. I have no family here, and I cant move to Colorado to live with my sister (not that I would anyway) because then I would lose my job...that's why I posted this here. If something bad happens, you all know that I said this. I dont know that it will, but I dont trust him either. And yes, I am armed. and have two dogs. I dont want to have to use any of that "protection" but who knows... he;s just nuts... So dont worry, just be aware please. It may all amount to nothing... :fadein: :fadein: Quote
Horsefeathers! Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 Courtnek, I wish you all the luck. You're a better woman than me. I'm the kind of person who would invite the b*stard down for coffee to "discuss" it, let him in all nice-nice, and blow his freaking brains out (self defense, you know), all AFTER documenting the threats, etc. with the proper authorities. There is nothing I hate worse than someone who victimizes others by using terror tactics to be in control. That just sucks. Again, I hope things work out well for you. You know you are going to have to check in regularly now or everyone is going to get all freaked out. Stay in constant touch. Quote
courtnek Posted December 21, 2003 Author Posted December 21, 2003 LOL@HF!! while I would LOVE to use those tactics, I would end up in jail... I am watching my butt, and Kyles, and I AM armed. I am the the Annie Oakley of the 2000's...and he KNOWS it... he knows he cant outshoot me... I am just hoping it wont come to that... :drinking: thanks EVERYONE!! Quote
StarFox Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 Oh court I hope that your and your son are safe!! Do you know anyone who could have a..."talk" with him? Oh say the Mafia! :wink: Quote
bk_blue Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 ok, now I am freaked out... I've never personally known anyone in this sort of situation... look after yourself courtnek. :angel: Quote
imported_Cassie Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 Court, I am so sorry for you. The thing that makes me maddest is the police do not offer protection just for verbal threats...I have had friends beat up by their boyfriends and have restraining orders against them...this still hasn't been good enough protection for them...one night one of my friends was seriously beat up by her ex out side a club, no one got involved to help her, by the time the cops got there...around here the cops hate gettting involved in domestic disputes...she was in pretty rough shape, he got a slap on the wrist and she had plasic surgery. The was the crimanal system is set up now a days, its too easy for a person to be victomized. My suggestion to you...I know you mentioned you are well armed...but, the best things to keep by your bed at night and in your purse is a good bottle of mace or pepper spray...I don't know where you can get them...but, a few people who are really into dogs that I know of keep them around in case of a dog fight breaking out...and a good cattle prod with a high electric shock...the Vet clinic I work at keeps one of these just in case of a horrible dog attack...then if it ever came up in court as to why you had these in your posession...well then you can explain you have 2 dogs which you were worried may have a horrible huge fight and you kept these for dog related purposes. Pepper spray the idiot first, then shock him with the cattle prod... Although I am in Canada, I would glady come down with my 5 dogs...let my Rottie catch him...then my Newf's could drown him in slobber....what a way to end a phyco's life! I don't think there is any law against death by slobber???? I hope all goes well for you and your boy...perhaps arm him with some pepper spray as well...aim for the eyes. Quote
Daisysmom Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 Courtnek, God, so sorry to hear about your troubles :( Why don't you see if you can hire a bodyguard (cheap - maybe someone from the neighborhood or work or etc....???? or let him know that you have, even if you haven't) Hopefully the dogs will bite him in the you-know-what if he shows up!!!! Get your locks checked too... deadbolts with keys on both sides so even if he broke a window, he would need a key to get in. Do you have an alarm? If not, sometimes they will sell you the stickers if you don't have the money for a system.... If you don't have a cell phone, get one and keep it charged and with you all the time. Program 911 into it to be ready Good luck!!! Quote
marion Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 Courtnek, I'm sorry you have to go through this right now, :( please take extra special care. I'll be thinking about you whilst I'm away (no comp access). Shoot the bastard if you have to. :evil: Quote
Queen Bitch Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 My thoughts are with you Courtnek. Quote
Guest Anonymous Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 Oh dear, I'm sorry you have to go through with this Court. Glad your armed, and everyone's suggestions were good. I wish you and your son the best of luck, I hope he's just all talk... and nothing bad happens :-? Quote
Queen Bitch Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 Mei-Mei napisał(a):Courtnek, I have an uncle who lives in Chicago. If things come to a head and you're feeling scared, you can go to him and he would happily take you and your son in. Or, if you need to just get away for awhile you and your son (and the dogs) would be welcome to come stay with me as long as you needed to. My other Uncle Silas is the head of the sheriff's dept. in Baton Rouge, so I don't think your stupid ex wants to mess with the police department down here. The police in Louisiana are very corrupt (I hate to say it, but it's true and everybody knows it) and 'accidents' happen. If your dodo ex came here he might suffer an 'accident.' I'm very worried about you. Please stay safe and take his threats seriously. If you need help contact me immediately. I'll email you with all the contact info if you want. See folks? THIS is one of the reasons that Dogo and the "old school" members are so great. You are an angel Meimei. Quote
Crested Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 Can't you wire your phone or something, so that if he calls you and starts to verbally abuse you, you would have some proof for the police? Or if he ever comes to your house or you see him, you always carry a tape recorder so you can catch every word of his on tape? Put security cameras up, so that if something happens, the police will have the evidence to lock him up for good? Just take care of yourself and the tape recorder or video would be a good idea if you ever do have to protect yourself. And keep 911 on speed dial! Aargh...! I'm all out of ideas now.... :( Just take care and be safe! Promise you'll look after yourself and your son! He's only one year younger than me... Quote
courtnek Posted December 21, 2003 Author Posted December 21, 2003 Thank you all, Mei Mei especially. My doors are already key deadbolted. both front and back, and the storms on the windeows are down and locked as are the windows. It's winter here, so no big deal. I already have pepper spray, have carried it for years, and the gun, of course, whihc I dont want to use. I have only a cell, I shut off the house phone a few weeks ago and the cell is kept with me at all times. so far, since the threat, he has not called or emailed. I sent him an email warning him that if he ever threatened me again, for any reason, I would have him arrested. And while I have no proof of what he said, since it was on the cell, I have alerted the police and gottent he restraining order. The neighbors are home all day, and have agreed to keep an eye out for him, and my son's friends are all watching the house. Now he was drunk when he called, so it may all amount to nothing, just him mouthing off, but I posted it just in case. The police told me to let everyone I know know about the threat, and to have them file it somewhere. So I did. Please dont worry, I will keep in touch. If I have to go away, I'll let you know, so you wont worry. Thanks for all the support. I'm beginning to relax a little, since he hasnt contacted me since then, but better safe than sorry. Y'know, he always pulls crap like this right around Christmas...seems like he deliberately tries to start a fight about something. Quote
Ickle Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 May God keep you and Kyle safe Courtnek You are in my thoughts & prayers Ickle Quote
mouseatthebusstop Posted December 21, 2003 Posted December 21, 2003 please be careful don't take any chances talk to the police tell them everything Quote
ellieangel Posted December 22, 2003 Posted December 22, 2003 Court you have to be as careful as you can babe I was engaged to a guy who (after we split) would break in and attack me in the night. I know how you feel as far as fear goes :( I pray that you and Kyle have a peaceful Christmas and if in doubt call Mei Mei............and pleease keep in touch or we will worry :wink: Quote
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