Human stupidity

[Crested]

We were and took a peek at my little hairless baby girl last saturday and then we went to one of our relatives to spend the night and the next day. Yesterday we came back.
On our way back we took a breather at this one place. After a while a woman took a stop allso with theese two Dobermans. My dad whisperd to me: "Let's get out of here. If thoose dogs see Ben, he's finished." I didn't understand what he ment. The dogs were minding their own buissness and doing their "buissness" in the high grass. I asked dad why he wants to go and the anwser was: "Dobermans are vicious". I got really angry, but did as he said, because I didn't want to make a scene.
I told him that the only reason why people have got the idea that dobermans are vicious is because of idiot dog owners that don't train their dogs. A dog that isn't trained, that doesn't get exercise or company will get vicious. ANY DOG! Shape or size. He didn't say much to that. He just said that if they would see Ben they'd kill him. FROM INSIDE THE CAR?!?!
Argh! How can I make dad understand this?!
I must confess that I try to avoid bigger dogs then Ben when I'm out with him, but not because I'm afraid of them. It's because Ben is afraid of them and because I can't know what kind of nature that sprcific dog has. Ben doesn't need to get any more afraid of big dogs then he allready is. He's started to become better now and I don't want that he should face that kind of horrific situation that he did when he was a baby.

But tell me, what should I do?

/Crest

[mjriggl2]

Most of the time... human illness might be curable... but never human "stupid" syndrome. Especially when most stupids think "I know better than you ..." :(

[Aonir]

You know, I've never met a vicious doberman in my life! I had one live down the street from me, and he was really sweet!

[Rowie-the-Pooh]

Crest, I'd love to offer advice but sadly, there is no cure I guess.

My mom never used to think like that, but some of my relatives do, and there is no cure I am afraid.

This may seem like a personal question, but are you close to your dad? Are you always "bonding"? I find that people who are close to you, understand you and listen better. I have absolutely no relationships with some of my cousins, and most of them think big, black dogs are bad. I cannot do anything about it. We don't have a "bond" so I am unable to speak to them freely.

If you and your dad are close, then I suggest telling him all about the media and how it vandalizes the "dangerous breeds". Show him stuff on the internet, and also let him meet, if possible, "dangerous breeds" of dogs and let him see the sweeties they are.

Just a thought. :wink:

[Crested]

Rowie: Hmm... I don't know about the bond thing between my dad and I... You made a pretty tough question. He's away so much and... hmm... Wow... That's hard. We aren't THAT close, but we do get along (sometimes). Dad likes to be "the man of the house". You know, the one that makes the last decition wich drives me mad. This has really pushed me away and I must say I'm jelous with people with good relationships with their dads.
I've tried many times to get through to him in various topics, but I've never succeeded. He still is against the whole puppy thing and thinks one dog is enough, but I've told him that I AM going to get the puppy no matter what he says because:
1. I pay for her myself
2. I bathe her AND Ben and do everything myself
3. The only thing mom and dad have had to do with Ben is to go on a few walks and give him food. I've done everything else and I'm still going to do everything with this puppy too.
I allso told him that saying no to this puppy will just drive me away faster. So unless he wants me to move much quicker then I normally would, then he should say yes. So he did. But he's not that... hmm... happy about it. But it's true. If he would have said no, I wouldn't have sayed at home for that long, because I can't in that case find any way to understand him. And another thing. He doesn't even remember when I was born (the date). So... I can't say I know if dad and I have a bond or not.
I'm much closer to my mom, but it's sometimes hard to get through to her too. With her I KNOW I have a bond.

/Crest

[Annushka]

I often meet "stupids". they always make me angry :evil:
One woman living in a nearby house has a cross-breed over 90 cm tall, but when she sees Asting (68 cm), she shouts and screams. :evil: I won't quote what she says when sees our friend's rottie...

[Rowie-the-Pooh]

Crested napisał(a):

Rowie: Hmm... I don't know about the bond thing between my dad and I... You made a pretty tough question. He's away so much and... hmm... Wow... That's hard. We aren't THAT close, but we do get along (sometimes). Dad likes to be "the man of the house". You know, the one that makes the last decition wich drives me mad. This has really pushed me away and I must say I'm jelous with people with good relationships with their dads.
I've tried many times to get through to him in various topics, but I've never succeeded. He still is against the whole puppy thing and thinks one dog is enough, but I've told him that I AM going to get the puppy no matter what he says because:
1. I pay for her myself
2. I bathe her AND Ben and do everything myself
3. The only thing mom and dad have had to do with Ben is to go on a few walks and give him food. I've done everything else and I'm still going to do everything with this puppy too.
I allso told him that saying no to this puppy will just drive me away faster. So unless he wants me to move much quicker then I normally would, then he should say yes. So he did. But he's not that... hmm... happy about it. But it's true. If he would have said no, I wouldn't have sayed at home for that long, because I can't in that case find any way to understand him. And another thing. He doesn't even remember when I was born (the date). So... I can't say I know if dad and I have a bond or not.
I'm much closer to my mom, but it's sometimes hard to get through to her too. With her I KNOW I have a bond.

/Crest

So sorry to hear that Crested! If you have a stronger bond with your mom (it seems most of us do) then maybe you should talk to her about it and tell her how it is bothering you. Go out for some quality time. My mom and I go out frequently to make sure we stay in touch with each other and are close. I tell her everything that bothers me, and she tells me problems she's facing too! And since your mom is bound to have a bond with your dad, then she can explain to him how some things are bothering you. :wink:

I'm talking to my mother on MSN now! :lol:

[Aonir]

I don't have a bond with neither of my parents. Nor my grandparents - whom I grew up with. I was spoiled rotten and still not happy. I actually requested once to be sent to my room. I wanted punished! Now I'm on depressant meds and sleeping meds.. And moved out! I'm 17 years old.

[abker17]

I'm 17 years old.

:o wow, talking to u I thoiught u were older.... :)


I'm sorry that u don't have a good relationship with your parents. :(

[Aonir]

I hear that a lot, lol. When I was 14, people thought I was 17.. Now I'm 17, and who knows what people think. I'm a 'very' resposible young lady, that's how I was allowed to move out early! Or maybe it was because I brought in to many pets? Hmm....

[mouseatthebusstop]

A lot of people belive what they read in the papers that big dogs are bad some little dogs can be nasty too. It is very frustrating try to tell people this is not true, some are very set in their ways :(