Daisysmom Posted February 7, 2003 Posted February 7, 2003 Well, I finally had the courage to do it. We talked to our vet, and she will come to our house next Sunday and put her to sleep. I can hardly think of the phrase, let alone type it!!!!!!!!!!!! She was my very first dog. We have had her for more than 16 years. This is so hard. I know it is best for her but it will not be the same without her :cry: All I want to do is make her last week a nice one. I want her to eat all the things we didn't let her have and I want to spend every moment with her. This is like putting one of my children to sleep. She is almost as old as my youngest daughter :cry: I am really going to miss her. My poor baby. :cry: :cry: I think we are going to keep her ashes and put them on our mantle with her picture. Has anyone every had this done? Or should we just let our vet take her with her???? I don't know what to decide. I don't care about the money. But do I want to look at her ashes everyday and cry and cry and will I think about her more?????? :cry: Quote
Daisysmom Posted February 7, 2003 Author Posted February 7, 2003 I want to try and post her picture. Don't know if this will work. Quote
behle Posted February 7, 2003 Posted February 7, 2003 Daisymom - It is always an agonizing decision to end a beloved pet's suffering. You asked about people's experiences. I have always had my dog's or cat's body returned to me. I always stay with them throughout the PTS process. My voice and my hand should reassure them as they pass over. That is my obligation to them. Then after crying my eyes out (vets do understand!) I wrap the remains in a blanket or towel and take them home. We have always buried our pets in our yard with their favorite things and marked the grave with a small shrub, tree, or marker. I have had pets cremated before (in the winter) and have placed their ashes in a container in storage area to hold until the spring thaw for burial then. I have not saved the ashes in a decorative urn for display, but I know others who have. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. Do what is best for you and your family. I know you will give Trixie all your love during the week ahead, as she has done for you for 16 years. :cry: Quote
Carolk9s Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 Daisysmom, My thoughts are with you, I know how difficult this is. I remember all too well just sitting on the floor at the vets crying like I would never stop when I let my Dawna go. I think it's wonderful that your vet will come out to you so Trixie will be at home with those who love her while she is helped over the rainbow bridge. I think the idea of having her cremated and keeping the ashes is a good idea, if later you decide to bury her ashes in one of her favorite spots, that will be an option for you. This most painful decision is made from the love you have shared with Trixie for so many years, bless her and you. Quote
bk_blue Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 I'm sorry to hear that Daisysmom... always a hard decision to make... :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: I don't think I could keep my dog's ashes in the house as a constant reminder. However when it's his time to go I'm going to bury him in the backyard so he can continue to raise h ell in his own unique way :wink:. Do what you feel comfortable with, that's the important thing. With the passing of time you'll stop thinking about how sad it all is and remembering all the good times you had together. It's going to be a tough week for you and I hope it goes as well as it possibly can for you, and your human and canine family. :angel: Quote
yellowlabsrule Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 I feel for you Daisysmom and I don't know what to say. :cry: Quote
Guest Anonymous Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 :cry: My thoughts are with you Daisymom... I agree with everyone here, the ashes is a good idea... and if you feel you want to burry them later you can... In our backyard, we have my old chihuahua burried by the Mountain Ash tree with wild roses growing all around. Beside her a cross for Jasper, who's life was taken so quickly, but unfortanatly our neighbor took it upon himself to drive our poor pooch to the mill to "dispose of" the body. :x My old Blue Boy (who I'm still grieving over) was taken to the vets an hour away, so we couldn't really keep the body, but in the spring I'm going to get dad to FINALLY make him to a cross to put beside Jasper and Daphne. There are also two gerbles, a mouse, and a bird burried out there in our Pet Cemetary. Make sure to remember and cherish all the good times you two have had together... Quote
mouseatthebusstop Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 :( you are very brave. My thoughts are with you Quote
daisykatep Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 Read my post which is in the topic Ben R.I.P it might help :angel: Quote
Guest Anonymous Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 :cry: I know how hard it is to put an animal to sleep. My sister had to put asleep are shelty when the rest of the family was on vacation. My mom cried the day we came home. I really never remember her that much know that day will always be in my head. I know this is not a dog but I did have to put asleep my 14 year old rescued cat. He was my baby. I came home the day my mom was goin to the vet and I sleep right beside him till 5:30 when My mom went to the vet. My cat was very skinny and he didnt eat. I gave my cat my little pillow I alwyas had with me and let him be put asleep with it but my puppy I have know chewed it up and is gone. The day was September 27, 2001 :cry: . A month later and 2 days my other 5 year old cat dies at 3:55am and I cried somuch :cry: . I will awlays remeber then. I thing you should put Trixie where ever if she is ashes or a body. I always go and put flowers and write little letters to my beloved animals that are up in heaven and do this on there anniversery(sp).I think it is hard to lose a family pet as I did many times and I am only 1 so it hurts really bad. :cry: Quote
science_doc Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 I have no additional words of comfort, but I will keep you and Daisey in my thoughts. I'm sure that your being there by her side makes all the difference to her. I know that scientists aren't supposed to feel this way, but I am positive that animals think and feel things we couldn't even imagine possible. I know in my heart that when it's time for them to cross the rainbow bridge they know and they want us to be happy not sad until we see them again. My sister's cat is dying of kidney failure(she was my cat too when I still lived at home), so I have been thinking alot about this particular topic, because the cat just keep getting sicker and sicker and I'm trying to help my sister from 1000 miles away. Quote
courtnek Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 OH Daisymom! I am SOO sorry..... I have the ashes still from all my pets. In decorative containers. It is hard at first - you might want to put them "out of site" for a little while. Eventually, a time will come whe you will want to put them where you can see them. When my first dog, Taurus, died (the Golden R) I was devastated, I also had a cat at the time, Isis, who loved Taurus as much as I did. Isis and Taurus slept together every night - Isis would curl up next to Taurus' belly and they would sleep that way. I had Taurus cremated, and brought the ashes home in a sealed decorative can. I put them on the bookcase headboard on my bed. The following Monday, I came home from work to find the can on the floor in the living room, and Isis sleeping next to it!! (True, I swear!) Somehow he knew his friend was there. It didnt matter where I put the can, he found it and dragged it out. Since it was sealed, I eventually gave up and let him keep it in his kitty bed. When he died, I had himn cremated and now both of them are on the bookcase headboard. It makes me smile to think of how much two "natural enemies" refused to be parted from each other. My thoughts are with you - this is hard, I know. Know that you are doing what is best for your pup - that's our job as pet owners. You will always remember; and so will your pup. Quote
Guest Anonymous Posted February 8, 2003 Posted February 8, 2003 courtnek napisał(a): I had Taurus cremated, and brought the ashes home in a sealed decorative can. I put them on the bookcase headboard on my bed. The following Monday, I came home from work to find the can on the floor in the living room, and Isis sleeping next to it!! (True, I swear!) Somehow he knew his friend was there. It didnt matter where I put the can, he found it and dragged it out. Since it was sealed, I eventually gave up and let him keep it in his kitty bed. When he died, I had himn cremated and now both of them are on the bookcase headboard. It makes me smile to think of how much two "natural enemies" refused to be parted from each other. That's so cute! :) Quote
Daisysmom Posted February 14, 2003 Author Posted February 14, 2003 We are supposed to get sooooooooooo much snow this weekend. Sunday is going to be the heavest! I wonder if poor Trixie will get a reprieve..... maybe it is fate. We will have to wait and see :( Quote
alicat613 Posted February 14, 2003 Posted February 14, 2003 Oh, I'm so sorry it's time. I know how hard that is, weighing death versus the pain life has become. We had my Holly girl cremated and made her an urn through one of those pottery shops. We felt that was much more personal and we wanted her to be with us, in whatever form. I wish you all strength for this tough time, and hope Trixie's remaining time is very special. Quote
Malamum Posted February 14, 2003 Posted February 14, 2003 My heart goes out to you in this tough time. In regards to the ashes it doesn't really matter what other peope have done, do what feels right for you. Quote
Daisysmom Posted February 14, 2003 Author Posted February 14, 2003 This is really hard :cry: The closer it gets to Sunday, the more I think about it. I am home alone (except for my doggies) and all I want to do is cry. I am wishing for a lot of snow so the vet can't make it here!! My heart is so very heavy :puppydogeyes: Quote
sixjollydogs Posted February 14, 2003 Posted February 14, 2003 :( I am sorry that you are faced with such a hard task. God Bless!! Quote
courtnek Posted February 15, 2003 Posted February 15, 2003 Daisymom! Know my love is with you and Trixie, but more importantly, know that you are doing the right thing. As pet owners/caretakers, we have to realize that a time comes when we have to decide. Is their life worth what they are going thru, or not? Is it a "quality" life, or are we just afraid? Think of it the way I did, when I had to put Taurus down.... They want to please us more than anything. When they can no longer do that, what does it make them feel? Taurus became incontinent, and would stand with tail between legs because he had an accident and couldnt help it, but he knew he was "wrong" somehow.... You have to accept that we have to make the decisions regarding their lives, and what is best for them. Sometimes, letting them go is best for them, although never best for us. I cried for days.... Be assured that what you are doing is right. "Quality of life" is MUCH more imprtant than "Quantitiy of Life....They should not have to suffer, when we can end that suffering. They are always with us Daisymom. All Love to you, and I hope this transition is not as hard as you feel... Quote
mouseatthebusstop Posted February 15, 2003 Posted February 15, 2003 it will only take a phone call to stop the vet coming. How has Trixie been this week. Quote
Daisysmom Posted February 15, 2003 Author Posted February 15, 2003 Yeah, that's what I have been thinking too.... just call it off. The Vet is supposed to call to get directions, and she hasn't yet, and it is going on 3:00 :-? Trixie has had her ups and downs this week. Unless the vet can't make it, I think we will proceed with IT. I think if I call it off, we will just have to go through all of this again and I don't know if we can take it :cry: The waiting has almost been the hardest part. Quote
Daisysmom Posted February 15, 2003 Author Posted February 15, 2003 You're going to make me cry again. I don't think I can be strong any more :cry: :cry: :cry: Quote
behle Posted February 15, 2003 Posted February 15, 2003 I know you will find the strength to get through this....for Trixie. My thoughts are with you today. Quote
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