A baby and jealous dogs...

[Guest Anonymous]

Horsefeathers,

That's a BIG concern of mine....my freedom. I've got all the freedom in the world and THAT will go away once a kid comes around.

Plus, as I get up this morning and look around, I see how MUCH work I put into this place on Friday. Cleaning, organizing, re-arrranging (for the X-Mas tree), dishes, laundry, scrubbing....just to see how hubby can put dirty dishes on TOP of the dishwasher, but doesn't understand how to LOAD the dishwasher. And...his end table (we have our own "spots" on the couch)...I had to take a finger nail to it to get the crap off it. Now, it's a pit again. Not to mention...how long has he had the hand dishwashing soap in the shower????? I distinctly remember him hollaring from the shower to have me bring that damn soap to him. I made him PROMISE he would put it back when he was done. It's been at LEAST a week and yup, the soap is STILL in the shower (he uses the Dawn to wash his precious hats with). He's got three coats sitting on our glidder rocker....and a suit on the dinning room chair.....that was left in his CAR since SEPTEMBER. Yes, a SUIT. Not to mention all the empty containers he leaves in the fridge....until I clean it out.

SOOOO....a question to ALL YOU PARENTS OUT THERE!!!!!!!!!!! After reading what I posted above about my hubby's cleaning (or LACK THERE OF) skills, and how I already have a kid (who's 32 and shares my bed :o !) is it worth it? Is what a child gives back worth doubling (plus the never ending lack of sleep) what I already deal with???? IS IS WORTH IT????
I am in SUCH a bad mood this morning cuz I am SO tired of going to bed to a clean house and waking to a mess (he usually stays up an hour after I go to bed)??? Do you have any idea how many glasses of curdled milk I have to look at in a weeks time since he doesn't know how to dump the rest of the milk into the sink and rinse the glass out? It's so much easier to let the glass sit on top of the entertainment center for a week...

OK. I am DONE ranting. Time to get moving for the day and to clean up his messes........ :evil:

Thanks for letting me vent!

[Guest Anonymous]

:lol: :lol: Oh gigi i have this problem STILL and my son is 9...The lucky thing with having a kid is YOU can teach them different from your "older" kid!! Yes I still pick up socks my 29 yr old "kid" has stuffed under the couch...cups here and there....clothes that never make it anywhere near the dirty clothes hamper....BUT my son puts his dishes in sink, clothes in the hamper, trash makes it near if not in the trash can...... :lol: I guess with your "own" child you have a chance to influence their habits.... I am still trying to "train" hubby....Clicker method failed, choke collar did not work either :lol: :lol: :lol: But when he is running around naked maybe he will realize clothes go in the hamper :lol: :lol:

[Guest Anonymous]

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Thank you for your input! I do hear from all my close friends, that child gives you joy that is unexplainable....and that you MUST experience it.

I think I need to work harder on training hubby...but in a not so obvious way!

Maybe....I can bribe him...if he can help me keep the place clean for a WHOLE WEEK, then he will get a **prize**...something for the car, of course. :roll:

[Guest Anonymous]

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:lol: :lol: :lol:

Thank you for your input! I do hear from all my close friends, that child gives you joy that is unexplainable....and that you MUST experience it.

I think I need to work harder on training hubby...but in a not so obvious way!

Maybe....I can bribe him...if he can help me keep the place clean for a WHOLE WEEK, then he will get a **prize**...something for the car, of course. :roll:

Sorry, that was me!

[corgilady]

OK my couple of pennies worth.....

I have 3 kids and have fostered 5 others. For the last 11 years I've done it solo. I collect kids just like I collect pets. :lol: I was WAYYY to young and stupid when I had kids, to think about whether my dogs would like him, etc. My dogs hated the baby, as they had been the babies....they pooped and peed on all of his stuff until hubby found new homes for the dogs. :agrue:

Hubbys who are messy, sloppy, whatever WILL NOT CHANGE. having a baby gives you more responsibility, more stress, and yep---no sleep. hubby said to me once, do you realize we will be 42 years old before we ever sleep a night thru?????? Not true of course, eventually they get older and let you take a nap...maybe....if they can remember not to blast the stereo for 30 min. :roll:

GIGI have you talked to hubby about his role with all this? Is he gonna share the parenting responsibilities? Does he think he is ready? Also think about how HIS parents were with HIM....that becomes really important because we tend to raise a child like we were raised!!!

My brother is a good example of this. We have a great dad. He is the best dad anybody could ever want. (He tries to be a dad to my kids, too, since they don't really have one). So my brother has this baby who is about 20 months old. My brother is WONDERFUL with him. He will work 12 hour days and then come home and play with him, and get up with him all nite or just whatever he needs. That is because of how HE was raised. His wife, on the other hand, dumps the baby on the closest person with no regard to anyones feelings (including the baby). My mom is not well, and shouldn't watch him more than a few hours at a time. She has tried to impose time limits, but the little mommy drops him off and then won't answer her cell phone etc so mom ends up with him forever. Also even if he is holding up his hands and saying, "mommy mommy" she ignores him. And THAT is how SHE(B****) was raised; she was mostly raised by her grandmother, because her mom was too busy flitting around to bother with her!!!

That is a long story, and I'm sorry, but these things are important; they seem to become magnified once we have kids. So be very sure....and best of luck to ya..... and after all is said and done, just look into those sweet little faces and your heart will swell and you will know that they are worth walking thru fire !!!!!! :D :D :D

[Guest Anonymous]

Corgi,

Hubby already has a 6 yr old daughter and he is great with her, other than helping keep her stuff put away (just like his own stuff). He's more stern on her than I am, but he was raised that way.

Hubby had an awful childhood. Dad (actually step dad) was murdered with the blunt side of an axe to the head. After that, mom went out all the time to leave her son home alone at 9 yrs old. Gramma almost took him in to raise him and to this day (well, till September when she passed), she still wishes she would have. After that came a series of bad relationships for his mother.

He helped with the midnight feedings with his daughter. She'd be propped with a bottle and he'd play Playstation as he feed her! :lol: He did this while his ex was still on maternity leave. Since I plan to nurse, I know I'd be the one getting up with the child...unless I pump as well. Then HE gets to help! :lol:

We will talk more in detail once we decide what to do. If we decide to give it a whirl, then before we try to create this miracle, we will have a NICE LONG talk about ALL of this!

[corgilady]

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[Guest Anonymous]

Mike doesn't like to put things back either, and he wonders why he can't find anything.:roll: I like everything in it's place, if it's not, it drives me nuts. Luckily, my kids do pick up after themselves. They don't always do the best job, but they try. They know I work my rear off trying to keep the place clean and tidy. Anyhow, it is a lot of work (especially with an adult "child":lol:), but I think it's well worth it. :wink:

Connie

[bk_blue]

Ugh. Is this what I have to look forward to one day? :wink:

[Guest Anonymous]

Ahh yes. I, too, find it easier to do it myself most of the time. At least it gets done RIGHT! :lol:

When hubby dusts (I think I've known him to dust TWICE), he doesn't MOVE things. Same with sweeping the floors. He doesn't get corners and under furniture, but he IS TRYING.

And yes, routine. I have had to pound and pound that into hubby's head. He didn't understand at first how much easier things would be with his daughter if she had a routine. Of course, he doesn't always follow the routine, but he does pretty good. I have to be there to help keep things moving along!

Now, if I could just get the man off the couch....