I have experienced seperation anxiety with my 12 year old lab.golden retriever mix, he has destroyed my wall to wall carpet in my bedroom to the point of shredding it right down to the bare sub floor!! Then proceeded to scratch and tear apart my box spring!!! It is terrible!! My vet gave me ACE!! Don't ever give that to a dog! It was horrible. I gave him one pill and he couldn't even stand up straight , it was like looking at the pictures of the cows with mad cow disease!! I felt horribe, I can't even imagine what he must of thought was happening to him. I'm looking for the same advice. I have never crated either of my dogs, so that is out of the question for me. Good luck to her, it's horrible.